Commitment of a Lifetime
- Keeping promises while facing challenges or the temptation of an easier path
- Seeing something through to the end and keeping the right attitude about it
- Honoring my responsibilities with diligence, even when it requires sacrifice
Commitment is a huge word for me. To me, that means having to stay committed to something/someone, being focused on something/someone, doing something you tell yourself that you will do, or just keep your word that it’ll get done right. It also means just staying loyal to someone that you see yourself spending the rest of your life with.
I’m a mother of four amazing boys, ranging from age twenty-one to eleven years. My husband, who I have been with for almost twenty years, has been my biggest influence and a blessing to me. Out of those twenty years, we have only been married for seven years. After being together for twelve years, we decided it was time to commit by getting married. That was one of the scariest things, to say the least. I’m not saying that it was something I didn’t want or had ever dreamed of. Commitment is a scary word for me. I mean, we had already been committed to each other for twelve years... Right? Both of us were fine with being a common law couple. What difference was it going to make by us getting married? My last name? A piece of paper that certified our marriage. It was just a piece of paper to us. Yes. JUST A PIECE OF PAPER.
Being parents of four kids, we struggled. We were working paycheck to paycheck, trying to make ends meet daily. I thought to myself, “How in the world are we supposed to plan a wedding with very little money?” We decided on a budget, many used things, a lot of COMMITMENT… There was that word again. I had to stay focused by knowing that things would fall into place and I would eventually figure everything out. That’s just me. I always try to figure things out no matter what. My husband and I are the kind of people that will not ask for help unless it’s offered to us first. We understand how hard life is and how can we ask for help especially when we do not know what kind of financial situation anyone is in. That’s just how we always see things.
I committed myself to pulling this wedding off. Remember, even though I was okay with being a common law couple, deep down inside, I had been waiting for this day for a long time. I had found my soulmate. The person I wanted to spend my life with. I had to pull this off! I gave myself a budget, which was very small, and a deadline. I made sure that I had everything I needed while staying in my budget. It was A LOT and harder than I thought, but I was determined to make this happen. On a side note, I organized this all by myself, thank you! Of course, along the way I would have a couple people offer to help and cover some of the most expensive stuff. That was a huge help, and I was not going to turn them down.
The day finally arrived. There I was, with some help from my family at seven in the morning, decorating the hall and trying to stay on schedule. I was scrambling around trying to not lose my mind. I knew I got this! Nervous, but ready, it was that time. With my arm wrapped around my father’s arm, he walked me down the aisle. I was obviously filled with excitement. My heart was racing, and I had butterflies. I finally arrived at the end of the aisle to my soon to be husband. With tears in both of our eyes, we both said, “I do,” before God and agreed to commit to one another for the rest of our lives. The rest of our lives!
That’s a HUGE COMMITMENT!! We committed to all the things that comes in a marriage. Especially staying loyal to one another. We were keeping our promises, with obviously a few broken ones here and there, by staying the same people we were before the PIECE OF PAPER. But wait! That PIECE OF PAPER, it changed us. It changed our way of seeing things; we are happier. It made us stronger as a couple. It made us love each other more than we thought we could. It made our family closer and gave us a sense of security knowing that we were now committed to one another more than before. Our rings mean everything to us. It’s a reminder of the commitment we made that day and continue to keep until the present day. Another benefit is the fact that our boys got to witness our marriage, see our commitment every day and know that being committed is not anything to fear. That was the most rewarding of it all.
I committed to writing this article and I completed it. Yay! I told myself it had to be done. Not a lifelong commitment, but one that I was able to start and finish, along with any more articles that I will be asked to do in the future. I probably used the word ‘commitment’ a few too many times, but I was able to use it with confidence! The moral of the story is to just know that being committed to something or someone is not always going to work out, but when you give it all you got, it can always be done.
Key words and phrases
Sticking with it; Faithfulness; Worthy of trust; Diligent and reliable; Dedication to a pledge; Dependable Sacrifice to keep a promise; Taking ownership of a situation
Not finishing the job; Undependable; Not worthy of trust; Wishy-washy
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